Some mornings don’t come easy. The world feels quiet but heavy, and even the simplest routines feel like uphill work.

And yet, somewhere in that resistance between
brushing your teeth and noticing the light through the blinds, there’s an invitation. It whispers, What if this, too, is part of the journey?

In therapy and in life, it can be easy to think we’re moving toward a single destination—peace, happiness, or clarity—as if once we arrive, the struggle will fall away. But healing is not a straight line. It's not a formula. It’s a relationship with yourself that deepens over time, especially when you show up on the days you’d rather stay hidden.

​This process, often called psychological flexibility, is at the heart of lasting mental
health. It refers to our ability to stay present and open to our internal experiences, even the uncomfortable ones, while still taking action aligned with our values (Kashdan &
Rottenberg, 2010, p. 866). That means allowing sadness to exist without immediately
needing to fix it. It means noticing anxiety without letting it run the show. It means trusting
that even confusion or fear might be part of something unfolding in you—something wise, something real.
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The challenge is that our culture often treats happiness as the end goal, something to chase, hold, and preserve. But happiness, like all emotions, is fleeting. And that is exactly what makes it beautiful. Its impermanence reminds us that life moves. Emotions shift. Meaning is made not by capturing perfection, but by learning how to be in each moment
fully.

In Japanese philosophy, there’s a concept called Wabi-Sabi, the appreciation of what is imperfect, impermanent, and incomplete. It reminds us that beauty doesn’t live in
flawless moments but in the cracked ones we choose to keep living through. Healing, too, is not about erasing the past but honoring the golden seams we form when we grow through it. Much like the art of kintsugi, where broken pottery is repaired with gold, our own emotional fractures can become a source of deeper strength and meaning—not something to hide, but something to revere.

As Viktor Frankl once noted, “When we are no longer able to change a situation, we are challenged to change ourselves” (Frankl, 1985, p. 112). But change does not mean becoming someone else. It means returning to the self you may have had to hide. It means honoring your own pace. Healing is less about becoming new and more about becoming honest. This honesty, this willingness to be with what is, doesn’t mean we let pain run wild. It means we befriend it so it no longer has to roar to be heard. In fact, research on self-
Compassion shows that those who learn to meet their struggles with kindness, not criticism, experience less anxiety and depression and greater emotional resilience (Neff, 2003, p. 226).

So if this morning felt hard, or messy, or just quiet in a way that made you ache a little good. That’s not failure. That’s aliveness. That’s a nervous system trying to relearn safety. That’s a heart making room for something unfamiliar. That’s growth you may not see yet. Healing, after all, is not always a feeling. Sometimes it’s a decision: to show up again, to keep walking, to stay gentle. Because happiness isn’t the goal. Being here, now, is.

by Dr. Elvin Peace

References
 Frankl, V. E. (1985). *Man’s search for meaning* (Rev. ed.). Washington Square Press.
https://archive.org/details/manssearchformea00fran_0
 Kashdan, T. B., & Rottenberg, J. (2010). Psychological flexibility as a fundamental aspect
of health. *Clinical Psychology Review, 30*(7), 865–878.
https://doi.org/10.1016/j.cpr.2010.03.001
 Neff, K. D. (2003). The development and validation of a scale to measure self-
compassion. *Self and Identity, 2*(3), 223–250. https://self-compassion.org/wp-
content/uploads/2015/06/Neff2003.pdf

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A still afternoon often conceals the complexity of internal thought processes. Sunlight may filter softly through a window, and a gentle breeze can brush against the curtains, yet persistent patterns of worry, anxiety, or self-doubt may quietly unfold in the mind. 
These repetitive narratives tend to arise without deliberate permission, are shaped by past experiences, and are reinforced over time. Such entrenched pathways direct thoughts along familiar, distressing routes. Research indicates that repeated cognitive habits lay down strong neural connections, making negative thought cycles feel natural and automatic (Beck, Rush, Shaw, & Emery, 1979).

Recognition stands as the initial and most pivotal step in breaking these loops. Rather than
waiting for a flash of insight, this process involves consciously identifying the exact moment
when distressing thoughts begin to emerge. Such awareness might reveal itself through
noticeable physical changes—an elevated heart rate, a tense jaw, or clenched fists—or it might
surface in subtler ways, such as a shift in mood or a spike in worry about a specific scenario. By
acknowledging this mental state, individuals take control of the moment, creating a decisive
pause. Metacognitive therapy methods place special emphasis on this pause, noting that
conscious observation of unhelpful mental chatter precedes effective changes in thinking (Wells,
2009).

A concrete, grounding technique can reinforce this moment of recognition. In many cases, a beadwork tool offers tactile feedback that helps redirect attention. Rolling beads through the fingers draws focus from the spiral of negative thoughts to a tangible object in the present. The
small sensation of the beads’ weight or texture provides enough interruption to prompt a
question: “Is this the path to continue following, or is there another option?” This space between thought and response allow for a reorientation toward a balanced perspective. By actively
choosing to pivot in a more constructive direction, neural pathways begin to reorganize,
ultimately weakening the hold of the old pattern over time (Davidson & McEwen, 2012).

Within this framework, compassion remains a core component. Instead of criticizing the self for
slipping into anxiety or rumination, a perspective of gentle inquiry invites reflection: “What
triggered this reaction, and how might it be approached differently?” This stance shifts away
from self-judgment, a habit often tied to entrenched negative beliefs and encourages empathy for personal struggles. Recent meta-analytic research on self-compassion-based interventions
supports the idea that responding to difficulties with kindness can help minimize the intensity of
negative thought cycles (Ferrari et al., 2019). Each instance of noticing and responding with understanding lays a foundation for greater resilience in future episodes.

Because ingrained patterns do not simply vanish, repeated redirection is essential for long-term
change. Each effort to identify and halt an old script contributes to new neural wiring that favors
mindfulness and adaptability. The small act of moving beads through the palms can evolve from
a simple grounding exercise into a life skill that fosters enduring emotional balance. Over time, individuals may discover that what once felt like a relentless cycle of anxious or self-defeating thinking has diminished in both strength and frequency.

However, these strategies—while invaluable—do not replace the counsel and care of
professional mental health services. Complex or severe conditions may require a comprehensive approach that includes therapy, medication, or other interventions tailored to individual needs.

Techniques such as grounding with beadwork and cultivating compassionate self-awareness
serve as meaningful supplements to formal treatment. When guided by qualified clinicians, these tools can significantly enhance an individual’s path toward greater stability, clarity, and overall well-being.

By Dr. Elvin Peace, PhD, LCMHC, LCAS

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References

Beck, A. T., Rush, A. J., Shaw, B. F., & Emery, G. (1979). Cognitive therapy of depression.
Guilford Press.
Link: https://www.guilford.com/books/Cognitive-Therapy-of-Depression/Beck-Rush-Shaw-
Emery/9780898629194

Davidson, R. J., & McEwen, B. S. (2012). Social influences on neuroplasticity: Stress and
interventions to promote well-being. Nature Neuroscience, 15(5), 689–695.
Link: https://doi.org/10.1038/nn.3093

Ferrari, M., Hunt, C., Harrysunker, A., Abbott, M. J., Beath, A. P., & Einstein, D. A. (2019).
Self-compassion interventions and psychosocial outcomes: A meta-analysis of RCTs.
Mindfulness, 10(8), 1455–1473.
Link: https://doi.org/10.1007/s12671-019-01134-6

Wells, A. (2009). Metacognitive therapy for anxiety and depression. Guilford Press.
Link: https://www.guilford.com/books/Metacognitive-Therapy-for-Anxiety-and-
Depression/Adrian-Wells/9781606234341


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Beads have held a significant role in human history, transcending cultures and traditions as tools of focus, mindfulness, and personal growth.

​From the rosary beads used in Christianity to the mala beads of Hinduism and Buddhism, these small, tactile objects have served as companions for prayer, meditation, and reflection. ​

Their enduring presence in spiritual and personal practices speaks to their profound ability to anchor the mind and foster a sense of presence. In modern times, beads continue to provide a simple yet effective way to enhance focus, regulate emotions, and interrupt patterns of stress or negative thinking.

The tactile nature of beads makes them uniquely suited for grounding exercises. Rolling beads between the fingers or palms activates sensory receptors, engaging the brain’s awareness of the present moment. This sensory engagement creates a natural interruption in ruminative or anxious thought patterns, allowing individuals to pause and refocus. When combined with intentional breathing, affirmations, or reflection, the use of beads becomes a practical and versatile method for managing stress and enhancing mindfulness.

One of the most effective ways to use beads in daily life is as a preparatory and grounding tool. Before approaching a stressful situation, individuals can take a moment to hold the beads and roll them between their palms. This action, paired with a mental inventory of current physical and emotional states, provides clarity on factors that may be affecting focus or bandwidth. For instance, acknowledging fatigue, hunger, or lingering frustration creates awareness of these influences without judgment. Placing the beads back on the wrist can then serve as a symbolic act of readiness and intention.

During moments of stress or emotional overwhelm, beads can be used as an anchor for presence. By gently rolling the beads on the wrist or between the fingers, individuals can ground themselves in the immediate moment, bringing awareness to what is happening without becoming consumed by it. Pairing this practice with affirmations or mantras, such as “I am here” or “This moment is manageable,” reinforces a sense of stability and calm.

Beads also offer a pathway for reflection and reframing negative internal dialogue. Negative self talk, often rooted in unfounded or overly critical beliefs, can perpetuate stress and self-doubt. Using the beads, individuals can pause the negative narrative by touching a specific bead to symbolize stopping the thought. Rolling each bead provides an opportunity to challenge and replace the thought with a more compassionate and accurate statement. For example, shifting from “I can’t handle this” to “I am capable and learning” fosters resilience and self-compassion.

The integration of beads into mindfulness and grounding practices draws upon their historical significance while addressing contemporary challenges. These small objects serve as powerful tools for creating presence, interrupting unhelpful thought patterns, and cultivating intentionality in daily life. Whether used to prepare for a stressful situation, stay grounded in the moment, or rewrite an internal narrative, beads offer a timeless, tactile method for navigating life’s demands with focus and clarity.

By Dr. Elvin Peace, LCMHC, LCASA, NCC

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